Pre-Primary Mothers Day Pamper Morning!
When – Friday 6th May 10:00am (after Mother’s Day assembly and Morning Tea in the Hall)
Where – PPG Beauty Parlour
What – Pamper Session for Mums (or Nan, Aunty, special family friend)
You may like to bring along your own hairbrush for the session.
And the school holidays have once again come and gone! How quickly two weeks flies by! Holidays are such a wonderful time to bond as a family, without the busyness of the school run! I certainly hope you have all managed to enjoy a very happy and relaxing time together?
My holidays have been largely spent in the company of my three beautiful grandchildren, which has been thoroughly enjoyable! Watching them grow, change and learn new things is such a joy and really reinforces for me just how precious it is to be part of a child’s life. I am very aware how they are carefully watching every move and noting the intonation in my voice and taking in every word of every song and learning how to do something new every day!
As the months unfold, my grandchildren’s parents, just like all of us who have gone before them, will be faced with many new parenting decisions – discerning what good foods to feed them, working out what is a tantrum and what is not; thinking about what is safe and unsafe; planning what school to send them to and so much more!
As a parent, we all want the very best for our children and most of us will ‘walk over hot coals’ to make sure they have everything they need and are protected from any harm. Sadly, in this fast paced, pressurised, materialistic, very narcissistic world we live in, too often, unintended harm can be done, right within the wall of our own families.
If we do not fully understand that WE are the most significant role model in our children’s lives, the door is left open to saying and doing things that can set our children up with a value system and a sense of self, that won’t fully equip them for a good and happy life into the future.
Obviously at the extreme end of the family spectrum, domestic violence and neglect are unfortunately the reality for some innocent children. However, even in the homes of Mr and Mrs Average, the way we speak and act in front of our children, from the time they wake up in the morning, to the time they go to bed, plays a huge role in their social and emotional development.
The challenge for all of us as parents, is to continually step back and take stock … what do I really want for my family and for my child? What values do I want them to live by?
Hopefully we want our children to value things other than being the most popular person; or the prettiest person ; or the smartest person …
Hopefully, we are more concerned in raising a child that is respectful, kind, generous, wise, helpful and just; who has a well developed sense of humour; who is respectful, considerate and assertive; who strives for their personal best, who is discovering their talents and strengths and so on, as these are just some of the things that will help to set them up for being happy, safe and secure in themselves.
Of course, childhood is an incredible learning time – which unfortunately doesn’t last very long at all in duration, but the effect of one’s childhood can certainly last a lifetime. Children are learning daily how to regulate their emotions; how to deal with disappointments; how to share; how to disagree in an agreeable way. They are learning that two wrongs don’t make a right; that hard work and persistence pays off in the end and that being a a good friend is important.
Hopefully they also learning within their family, that their faith is a special gift – that God loves them and is calling them to be the best version of ourselves they can be, so that they can ultimately be happy!
Let’s continue to commit to our best parenting here at St Emilie’s. This starts with a really honest inventory of our own selves, as both people and parents.
If we are short tempered – quick to anger, slow to forgive; if we are always too tired; if we harbour resentment; if we have forgotten what it feels like to be a child; if we are a harsh judge; if we are jealous, or small minded; if we are slow to praise or encourage, or indeed if we over praise or make hollow promises to our children; if we show no affection or warmth; if we play favourites; if we forget to play; if we are always critical ….
then let’s rethink and take a new direction in our parenting. Let’s make a personal pledge to work on ourselves for the ultimate well being of each child in our family. If all families work on their relationships with one another, it has a ripple effect out into he community which has to be a good thing.
The husband and wife relationship is of course key to creating children who learn about mutual respect and what it takes to nurture a relationship. Keep investing in yourselves as a couple, as this will bring great rewards to your children – who are watching and listening to you all the time!
Right.. time to get dressed and off to work! Have a great week everyone. The Term Planner and class letters to families will be posted here on the website this week. We look forward to seeing you on Friday at our Anzac Day Assembly and for some of you, at our Kindy Interviews for 2017 which commence this week.